Breaking the Abuse Cycle

Before my awakening I didn’t even realize that I was trapped in an abuse cycle. I normalized it and made up excuses for my husbands behaviour. When I woke up so to speak. I couldn’t stay in an abuse cycle I had to leave as it was making me physically sick to stay.

How to Recognize That You Are Trapped in an Abuse Cycle

1) The Honeymoon Phase

All seems well this is “normal” life

2) Tension Builds

Tempers start to heighten the victim can feel the energy shift and feels as if they are walking on eggshells. The victim tries to stay on their best behaviour, careful not to trigger an explosion.

3) Explosion (Abuse Happens) 

Mental abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, financial abuse. Regardless of the abuse it’s abuse and this is the explosion.

4) Apologies and Gifts  

The abuser apologizes for their actions, begs for the victim to come back. Buys them gifts, promises it’s going to be different. They say they won’t do it again and that they have changed their ways.

5) Repeat 

The victim returns home and the entire cycle repeats again. It might be days, weeks, months or even a year but the abuser goes back to his old ways and the cycle repeats again

How to Break the Cycle 

 Step 1: Recognize that you are trapped in an abuse cycle.

Step 2: Make a plan to leave in a safe way (talk to a therapist, friends and family).

Step 3: Leave when the abuser is not home

Step 4: Stay strong and don’t go back

Step 5: Take back the power and control of your own life.

For more information I share my personal story as to how I kept getting sucked back into the abuse cycle. I also share how I broke the cycle. Took back the power and control of my own life and became the best version of myself that I could be. Now this is living!!!!

If you are struggling with leaving an abuse cycle please feel free to reach out as I have been in your shoes. It’s not easy but in the end it’s well worth it.